I have just been reading blogs of friends from Minnesota, Texas, and good ol' Kaysville. I just had a horrible pang of sadness because I miss everyone so much. I have to admit I have not really made any friends here in Idaho. It is just not the same as living outside of Utah/Idaho. Church really made meeting people so easy. Everyone was willing to embrace newcomers as part of their lives. It was as if they were saying, Come into our circle. You belong to us now. We will get to know you and take care of you. The automatic inclusion into a circle of friends was wonderful.
My experience in Idaho has been a lot different. People are nice and friendly but it has been limited to a casual acquaintance and nothing more. It seems as if people already have enough in their lives and they do not need more. They have friends; they have family near. They are not looking for more.
I miss close friends. I miss play groups at the park. I miss going to church where everyone knows my name and asks how things are going and really mean it. I miss wonderful Enrichment nights. I miss friends calling and arranging play dates and get togethers. I miss book club! I even miss gourmet club which was also so stressful but so much fun in the end.
So dear friends, I miss you and I am so grateful for blogs. I grateful we can keep in touch.
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Jenni,
We miss you!! Thank goodness for blogs!!
Love you--
Janus
Oh, I miss you too Jenni. I wish you could have the best of both worlds-family close and good friends too. I always dream of collecting all my friends and family and having them live on the same cul-de-sac as me. Wouldn't that be awesome?
You know, we could always do a teleconference for book club with you! That would be fun.
DITTO!!! I even started a playgroup here and there are usually only 2 of us there. It's just not like Rochester.
We miss you too. I'm glad we got to see you this summer. If we end up in Idaho I hope I can make new friends, even though we have family there. I love blogs for keeping in touch.
Hang in there Jenni! It will come. It took me a LONG time to feel settled here, so there is hope!! Everybody misses you here so much! Happy Thanksgiving in a week!
You have lots of friends, we just have to keep in touch in other ways! I'm sorry you are struggling right now, give it time and you will do great!
We miss you too, Jenni. Book club is this week. We are discussing The Last Lecture. Maybe you should call in like Sarah suggested. You are such an awesome person. People don't know what they are missing. Hang in there.
You know my dream is to live close to you... then we won't need anybody else! :) Until that blessed day, I guess we'll just have to keep reaching out to others, making our own circles and memories. Too bad it takes so much effort, it's just so much easier when you're kindred spirits...
I am with you on the tough transition. I am lucky to have my family around, it helps, but I really miss having friends.
I was recently thinking about how I've hardly read any books these past few months, it's because I don't have our great book club any more.
Last night after Emma's family birthday party my mom asked if our house ever was this messy after having friends & I told her of course! We used to love to have friends over, kids & everything that came with it!
We really miss you guys! We do want to come visit (not this weekend, Todd's on call) but one of these we will.
Alright, that settles it-- You just have to move back! Seriously, we miss you too!
Miss you too Jenni!
I'm sad to hear you haven't made any close friends yet - do you mean there's no book club in your ward? That's not good!
You're so friendly that you will make good friends eventually, I'm sure! I miss you too!
I'm sorry to hear all that, Jenni. That has to be so frustrating, especially when you just moved from an amazing ward in Rochester. I know I miss you every time we have a book club meeting. It's just not the same. I like Lorie's idea of a teleconference. Maybe we can get a webcam thing going on :-)
I can relate!~That's exactly how I feel about my ward now. We have lived here 3 and 1/2 years and haven't made one good close friend. Lots of acquaintances of course, but no one that we will continue to keep in touch with after we move in 6 weeks. Our ward has always been our biggest gripe about living in Denver. No unity, no ward activities, no sisterhood in relief society. I mean I led the music in sacrament meeting for our entire first year here, and after I was released I still had people asking if I was new in the ward! We've had home teachers come to our house a total of 3 times. In 3 years! what is that, 1% home teaching or something? We try to be involved and participate-there is just no sense of a ward family. Politeness yes, but no scratching past the surface to really get to know one another.
Thanks for you post Jenni-I enjoy reading your blog and I hope you find a niche of fun friends soon!
that's too bad, jenni. you are such an open and friendly person, i bet that's really frustrating that it doesn't seem reciprocated. i think that happens a lot when almost everyone has family nearby, or at least in state! we've been lucky to always have great wards, and our christmas card list keeps growing every time we move. i'm glad to say you're still on it. :)
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